Handling issue of wife battering (1)

ONE worrisome feature of spousal abuse is wife battering. This has become an issue of serious concern in our society due to its alarming rate of occurrence. It is even more worrisome because only very few cases of such get reported.  Many cases are swept under the carpet, all in the name of family relationships.

In considering this issue of wife battering, I have come to realize two issues pertaining to husbands and wives which must be given serious consideration, if wife battering will be tamed. These are mouth running for the wife and muscle flexing for the husband. Putting these two issues in proper perspectives will help the husband and wife to stay sane when the issues manifest in their marriage.

One issue that every husband must know is that one feature of a woman’s weapon is the mouth. A woman can deplore her mouth either positively or negatively. When it comes to the issue of conflict, a woman’s mouth becomes a weapon that she can deplore effortlessly to fight her husband.  She can say derogatory things about her husband to provoke him in no small measure, so much as to make him lose his temper and behave irrationally towards her.

When a husband understands this aspect of a woman’s life, it becomes easy to deal with her at crisis point. Rather than being provoked to take rash and irrational actions at such moments, he is able to control himself, and avoid her troubles.

I have even discovered that many at times, a wife does not even mean most of those nasty comments, but  just wants to get at her husband.  It may even be a trap to let her husband misbehave in order to have an excuse to act out her plan against the husband.  If only husbands would be patiently wise to understand this aspect of a woman, it would go a long way to help minimize the issue of wife battering in marriage.

Not only that, a man can also escape a trap set by his wife for him, if he has an understanding of how a woman uses her mouth as a weapon.  A lot of wives have succeeded in abandoning their matrimonial homes by deploring their mouth to provoke their husbands to beat them mercilessly. This is a good ground them to look for separate accommodation and sue for divorce on account of threat to life.

Every husband must understand this weakness in women, and thus map out strategy to avoid being pushed into becoming emotionally irrational and behaving negatively towards his wife. Of course, beating a woman is definitely not one strategy to adopt in settling differences with one’s wife. It is great wisdom for a husband to exercise complete restraint and self control in settling differences within the marriage. Understanding the mouth weakness of a woman will go a long way in helping a husband to demonstrate the maturity expected of a man in marriage.

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